Circle of Security Parenting
Building connection, confidence and emotional security
Circle of Security Parenting® (COSP) is a relationship-based approach that helps parents better understand their child’s emotional world and respond in ways that support secure attachment, emotional regulation and healthy development.
At Early Nurturing, COSP is offered as a supportive, reflective program — not a parenting course that tells you what to do.
This work helps parents move from reacting to behaviour, to understanding the needs underneath it.
What is Circle of Security Parenting?
Circle of Security Parenting® is an evidence-based program developed from decades of attachment research.
It supports parents to:
understand children’s emotional needs
respond with connection while holding boundaries
build secure attachment relationships
strengthen parental confidence and reflection
Rather than focusing on techniques or behaviour management, COSP focuses on the relationship — because children thrive when they feel safe, seen and supported.
Many parents already want to parent responsively — but find it hard when:
emotions run high
behaviour feels challenging or confusing
they feel triggered, exhausted or unsure
advice feels conflicting or unrealistic
COSP recognises that parenting is hardest when parents themselves need support.
This work gently explores those moments — without blame or judgement.
How this approach is different
Circle of Security Parenting:
does not focus on rewards, punishments or behaviour charts
does not expect parents to be calm or perfect
does not follow rigid rules or scripts
Instead, it supports:
curiosity over criticism
understanding over control
repair over perfection
It meets parents where they are.
How COSP is offered at Early Nurturing
A supportive, reflective experience
COSP is a 7 week program delivered live and online in small groups of around 8 parents/couples. We meet at the same time once a week for around 90 minutes.
Sessions include:
video examples of real parent–child interactions
guided reflection and discussion
practical insights you can apply in daily life
a supportive space to explore challenges safely
You don’t need to share more than you’re comfortable with — listening and reflecting is just as valuable.
Why parents choose Circle of Security Parenting
Parents often choose COSP because it:
helps them understand their child more deeply
reduces power struggles and reactivity
supports emotional regulation for both child and parent
aligns with values of connection and respect
feels validating and relieving
Many parents describe it as “a shift in how they see their child — and themselves”.
Your Questions, Answered
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No, sessions are not recorded and have to be attended live each week. This is to protect the privacy of the group and to keep the personal experiences and reflections shared during the session confidential.
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If you know you are going to miss a session in advance please email me and let me know so we can arrange a catch up session. It’s important to attend each session as the topics are progressive and designed to be viewed in order. Of course, sometimes thing happen which can’t be avoided and I’m happy to do one make up session if required.
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As a Registered Circle of Security Parenting® Facilitator, with training in psychology, sleep science and motherhood studies, I bring a unique, holistic lens to this work.
This means:
understanding child development and attachment
recognising the impact of stress, sleep and mental load
supporting parents through matrescence and identity change
holding space for both science and lived experience
This work supports the whole family system — not just behaviour.
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Yes! I encourage both parents to do the sessions together if possible as it’s so beneficial for both parents to be on the same page and working as a team. There is no extra cost for your partner to join and I offer out of office hours sessions so both parents can be available.
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Yes! It’s completely fine if your little ones will be at home with you during the sessions and if you’ll have a babe in arms.
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COSP is suitable for parents of babies, toddlers and young children, typically 0-6. The principles are timeless and can be applied across different developmental stages and family dynamics.
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Sharing is always optional. Some parents choose to speak, others prefer to listen and reflect quietly. Both are equally valuable. The space is respectful, supportive and confidential so sharing is encouraged if you feel comfortable doing so.
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Many parents join because they want to understand their child better, feel more confident in their parenting, or strengthen their relationship. You don’t need to be experiencing major difficulties for this work to be valuable.